Havdalah
Havdalah, the ceremony that officially ends Shabbat, is practiced after sunset when any three stars are visible in the sky. The word "Havdalah" in Hebrew means "to separate". Just has God has separated light from dark, we separate holy time from mundane time by practicing this specific commencement. The three symbols used in this ritual consist of the Kiddush Cup, Havdalah Candle, and Havdalah Spice Box. This ritual ends Shabbat and begins a new week.
Praise to God is given four times in Havdalah ritual. The first blessing performed is over wine, which is always said to represent joy. Once it is finished, then we say another blessing over the spice box and everyone enjoys the beautiful scent that is God's gift to us. When we end that prayer, and everyone has had an opportunity to indulge in its rich fragrances, we light the Havdalah Candle. This is a special candle which is braided and contains multiple wicks to produce a large, elegant flame. The kindling of the flame illustrates that Shabbat has ended, since we are not allowed to light a fire on the Sabbath. Again, we give praise to the Creator by reciting another blessing over the Havdalah Candle. It is important to use the light of the candle so that we do not use its flame in vain. Many people like to use it for warmth or to reflect the light off their fingernails as we begin the final prayer. The last is the Havdalah blessing itself, which is said over all three items separated. We drink the wine after reciting the prayer and extinguish the flame using the last drops of wine, which shows that the candle was only lit for Havdalah. Upon commencing, we wish each other well in the following week, and the ritual ends.
Traditionally, only men drink the wine at Havdalah. Women are allowed to take wine, however superstitions prevent many from doing so. It is said that women who drink from the Kiddush Cup during Havdalah will grow a beard, or develop other masculine features. Other legends relate it back to the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, which places Eve taking from the Tree of Knowledge. In addition to growing apples, this tree purportedly grew grapes as well, which are fermented to make wine. |